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Parent guide · Source retrieved Oct 26, 2026

My co-parent and I are separated. Who controls the account?

Whichever eligible adult finishes the claim first gets control of the account; the Help Center says it is first come, first served. The money belongs to the child, not to the parent who manages it: Social Security’s rules say the custodian is not a co-owner.

Practical suggestions

These are Seedlist’s suggestions, not additional program rules.

  • Agree with your co-parent on who will claim the account before either of you starts, and keep a copy of the account statements.

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